The 90-Day Relationship Coaching Program

This 90-day experience is for Christian singles who want to meet, date, and marry the person God has for them. It's meant to give you greater clarity on how to best pursue God's will for your relationship future.

Whether it be past hurts, a current attachment, or just confusion about what to do differently, I am offering my assistance to help you move forward towards the godly relationship the Lord may have for you.

This program is different than anything else I offer because it is completely personalized to each student. We will have weekly one-on-one live video sessions, monthly phone calls, ongoing email correspondence, and unique assignments that I will create for the student to complete between our sessions.

This 90-day coaching program is divided into four phases. I give a detailed explanation of each phase further down on this page.

Here are some examples of the types of people this experience would benefit:

• Christian singles who are struggling to meet the right person. What blind spots do you have? What little tweaks can be made that will result in totally different outcomes? What is the best place for you, with your personality traits, to meet the one God has for you? If you need help meeting someone, this 90-day coaching program would be a good fit for you.

• Christian singles who are over 40 and want to get married. What healing needs to take place from past relationships? What needs to change so you can meet the right person? What action steps need to take place to get different results? If you didn’t think you would still be single at this age and you feel like you’ve tried everything to meet someone, this 90-day coaching program would be a good fit for you.

• Christian singles who lack relationship experience and want the tools to succeed. Are you unsure of how to connect with singles of the opposite sex? Do you have a lot to offer but are unsure of how to open up when needed? How can you be inviting towards a man you respect or pursue a woman you desire? If you feel like you are behind when it comes to relationship experience and you don’t know how to progress, this 90-day coaching program would be a good fit for you.

• Christians who keep falling to a particular sin that is hindering them from thriving in a relationship and want to break the cycle. Are you stuck on repeat in some unwanted area of your life that is sabotaging your ability to love someone in a mature way? If you’re a man, are you not progressing in your career the way you want so you can support a family? If you’re a woman, do you keep finding yourself in relationships with men that hurt you? If there is an undesirable cycle in your life that you want to be free from, this 90-day coaching program would be a good fit for you.

• Christians who want to sanctify their hearts so they can pursue a relationship in a balanced, non-anxious way. Do you know your motives for marriage are off but you’re not sure how to change them? Do you swing between passivity and obsession when it comes to looking for the right person to marry? How can you foster a healthy Christian fellowship with other believers without hidden motives while also being open to a healthy romantic connection forming out of that community? If you want spiritual guidance on how to grow in the Lord in the area of relationships, this 90-day coaching program would be a good fit for you.

These are just a few examples of the ways in which this 90-day coaching program could be used. Really, however, the most unique quality about this experience is that it is meant to be highly individualized.

Unlike other resources out there, the point of this program is that it will be personalized. I will be spending a lot of time directly with each person and then forming unique content to help that person accomplish his or her goals.

This coaching experience will be divided into four phases. Here is a general description of each phase. Further down on this page, you will see an even more detailed explanation of each month. 

• Phase one will take place over the first month. This is the most time intensive phase and it will require a lot of effort from both you and me. We will talk regularly, define very specific relationship goals, and come up with a precise biblical action plan to accomplish those goals.

• Phase two will take place in month two. This is the most action-packed phase. Here we will focus on applying the lessons we learned in phase one. We will spend our energy on following through on the precise biblical action plan we formed together to accomplish your relationship goals. The student will be doing the work and I will be there to help coach them through it all.

• Phase three will take place in month three. This will be the time where we will focus on creating new norms that help achieve and maintain the desired outcomes. Change is great. However, if we don’t create a lifestyle to protect those healthy changes, we will always resort back to our old ways.

• Phase four will take place in the last week of the 90-day coaching program. This time will be spent preparing the student to launch out without my assistance. Whether you are still looking for the right person or you are in the relationship of your dreams, we will discuss what further training you should pursue and what new habits should be maintained to keep the results that have occurred over the past 90 days together.

A Detailed Breakdown of Phase One

Week One:

• 1 hour video call to define major goals and minor goals for the next 90 days of relationship coaching.
• Personalized weekly assignments related to that week’s coaching session will be sent to the student after the coaching session.
• Email coaching will be available throughout the week as needed.

(NOTE: All the video coaching sessions will be recorded and sent to the student after each session so they can have them forever and review them whenever they want).

(NOTE: Email coaching will be available for a full 365 days from the date of enrollment. Emails shorter than 1,000 words will be responded to within 1 business day during the 90-day coaching program and within 5 business days after the 90 days is over.)

Week Two:

• 1-hour video call to discuss blockers that have hindered the student’s relationship desires thus far. We will talk about the student’s past and how that may still be affecting their present. We will discuss current beliefs that may need to change to see different relationship results.
• The assignments from week 1 will be reviewed and discussed together.
• New personalized weekly assignments related to that week’s coaching session will be sent to the student after the coaching session.
• Email coaching will be available throughout the week as needed.
  

Week Three:

• 1-hour video call to create an individualized action plan with the student. We will review the goals and then formulate a realistic action plan that is biblical and practical. We will discuss real steps that can be taken and when they should be completed. Before actually implementing this plan, we will let it sit for a week so prayer and reflection can occur.
• The assignments from week 2 will be reviewed and discussed together.
• New personalized weekly assignments related to that week’s coaching session will be sent to the student after the coaching session.
• Email coaching will be available throughout the week as needed.
  

Week Four:

• 1-hour video call to perfect the individualize action plan and to formulate strategies to overcome the barriers that will arise. No plan goes unopposed. We will try to prepare for the problems before they occur so the student will be better prepared to actually succeed.
• The assignments from week 3 will be reviewed and discussed together.
• New personalized weekly assignments related to that week’s coaching session will be sent to the student after the coaching session.
• Email coaching will be available throughout the week as needed.
  

A Detailed Breakdown of Phase Two

Phase two will take place in the second month.

This is where the rubber will really meet the road! Now will be the time for consistency and real changes to occur. While phase one was more like a sprint to get things moving, this phase will be more about pacing and creating sustainable habits that create the desired outcomes.

We will have one weekly 30-minute video call to review progress and discuss how to execute that week's goals.

Also, whenever an unexpected problem arises, immediate clarification is needed, or a new question has popped up, I will provide ongoing support via 15-minute phone calls as needed (maximum one per-week). Email coaching will also be available for less pressing needs.

During this phase, we will spend our energy on following through on the precise action plan we formed together to accomplish your goals. This will be all about applying what we’ve learned thus far. The student will be doing the work and I will be there to help coach them through it all.

A Detailed Breakdown of Phase Three

Phase three will take place in the third month.

By this time, the student should start to feel unstuck and be experiencing positive growth towards their goals. Perhaps they will be in a relationship by now; or perhaps they will see the possibilities of how a relationship could happen with the changes occurring in their life. There will still be work to do, but they will feel more confident that they are on the right track and have the skills required to succeed going forward.

To assist the student, I will be available via 15-minute phone calls (maximum one per week). I will also continue to be available through the ongoing email coaching. This will be the time where we will focus on creating new norms that help achieve and maintain the good outcomes already occurring.

Change is great. However, if we don’t create a new lifestyle to protect those healthy changes, we will eventually turn back to our old ways.

A Detailed Breakdown of Phase Four

Phase four will take place in the last week of the 90-day coaching program.

By this time, the student will be prepared to launch out without my assistance. They will know what still needs to occur to achieve their goals or they will have already achieved those goals.

A final session will occur to discuss what further training the student should pursue and what new habits should be maintained to keep the results that have taken place over the past 90 days together.

Here's a breakdown of all the classes from each course:

(Each class has a video and all the content is in text format as well.)

Heart Check: How to Prepare Your Heart for a Godly Relationship

• Introduction (9:39)
• Lesson 1: Why Marriage Motives Matter (30:48)
• Lesson 2: Four Biblical Marriage Motives (31:48)
• Lesson 3: How to Desire Marriage Without Being Discontent with God (33:28)
• Lesson 4: How to Identify a Relationship Idol in Your Heart (24:47)
• Lesson 5: How to Choose Good Marriage Motives in Your Heart (27:49)
• Lesson 6: How to Heal from Past Relationship Wounds (31:21)
• Lesson 7: Preparing Your Heart for a New Relationship in the Future (26:16)
• Lesson 8: How to Handle a Season of Unwanted Singleness (19:44)
• Lesson 9: Exposing Bad Relationship Advice that Is Hurting Your Heart (23:03)
• Lesson 10: Helpful Motives and Mindsets When You Meet Someone You Like (18:34)

Marriage Material: The Qualities to Develop in Yourself and Look for in Another if You Desire a Healthy Christian Marriage One Day

• Introduction (6:10)
• Lesson 1: The 3 Main Ingredients to All Healthy Christian Marriages (24:36)
• Lesson 2: 6 Signs of a True Christian (22:54)
• Lesson 3: 16 Signs Someone Is Not Ready for a Christian Marriage (22:53)
• Lesson 4: 9 Signs Someone Is Ready for a Successful Christian Marriage (22:45)
• Lesson 5: 4 Signs a Man Is Ready to Be a Christian Husband (15:22)
• Lesson 6: 4 Signs a Woman Is Ready to Be a Christian Wife (22:21)
• Lesson 7: 6 Signs a Relationship Is Not Built to Last (23:43)
• Lesson 8: 5 Signs You Are in the Right Christian Relationship (15:41)

The Mind of a Man: How to Understand a Man and Communicate the Right Message to Him

• Lesson 1: What Does a Man Want in a Relationship and Why? (56:14)
• Lesson 2: What Do Men Fear and How Can You Avoid Toxic Males? (35:53)
• Lesson 3: How Can a Woman Say and Do the Right Things to Get the Man She Wants (53:49)
• Lesson 4: How Will You Know When a Man Likes You (25:28)
• Lesson 5: Twenty Frequently Asked Questions About Men (30:51)

The Mind of a Woman: How to Understand a Woman and Communicate the Right Message to Her

• Lesson 1: What Does a Woman Want in a Relationship and Why? (37:36)
• Lesson 2: What Do Women Fear and How Can You Avoid Toxic Females (30:36)
• Lesson 3: How Can a Man Say and Do the Right Things to Win the Woman He Wants (39:47)
• Lesson 4: How Will You Know When a Woman Likes You? (21:20)
• Lesson 5: Twenty Frequently Asked Questions About Women (34:35)

10 Steps to Meet The One: How to Step Out In Faith Rather Than “Just Waiting” in Fear

• Introduction (9:23)
• Step 1: Decide What Your Beliefs Are About Christian Dating (23:54)
• Step 2: Apply the Bible to Create a Practical Dating Approach (18:20)
• Step 3: Stop Waiting to Be Found (28:31)
• Step 4: Intentionally Initiate Interactions with Other Christian Singles (29:28)
• Step 5: Build Bridges Between You and Someone You Are Interested in but Don’t Know that Well (28:43)
• Step 6: Count the Cost and Then Risk Rejection if You Like Your Friend (19:36)
• Step 7: Learn to Pick Up on Signals Someone Might Be Sending You (25:26)
• Step 8: Pursue the Woman You Like (22:54)
• Step 9: Be Inviting Towards the Man You Like (17:05)
• Step 10: Continue to Assess if You Are Being Too Passive or Aggressive in Your Search for a Christian Spouse (17:58)

The Effective Online Christian Dating Plan: A Powerful Strategy for Christians Who Want to Be Married

• Introduction: An Online Dating Success Story (6:32)
• Lesson 1: Is Online Dating Good or Bad and Is It Right for You? (21:58)
• Lesson 2: 6 Mindsets Needed to Be Successful with Online Dating (19:14)
• Lesson 3: 14 Practical Tips to Help You Meet More People with Online Dating (35:41)
• Lesson 4: How to Actually Build a Relationship with Someone You Met Online (16:22)
• Lesson 5: My Top Recommendations for Online Christian Dating Websites (11:32)

30 Days of Sanctifying Your Sexuality

• Section 1: Reflection and Repentance
• Day 1: Defining Your Goal for the Next 30 Days (6:22)
• Day 2: Confession: Remembering Your Sin So You Can Forget It (7:11)
• Day 3: Repentance: Turning From Sin and Towards Your Savior (6:46)
• Day 4: Commit to Never Quit: A Plan for When You Fail (7:54)
• Day 5: Re-embracing the Good Desires That Got Twisted By Sin (5:21)
• Section 2: Embracing Your Newness in Christ
• Day 6: Justification Has Changed You (8:45)
• Day 7: Applying Justification to Your Sexuality (7:58)
• Day 8: Sanctification Is Changing You (10:01)
• Day 9: Applying Sanctification to Your Sexuality (7:31)
• Day 10: God’s Grace Leads to Practical Changes (7:32)
• Section 3: Strategies to Overcome Temptation
• Day 11: How to Use God’s Means of Grace: Bible (11:02)
• Day 12: How to Use God’s Means of Grace: Prayer (9:46)
• Day 13: How to Use God’s Means of Grace: Christian Fellowship (8:58)
• Day 14: Feed the Good, Starve the Bad (6:08)
• Day 15: Plan for Future Pleasure to Help You Resist Temptation (7:11)
• Section 4: Understanding Sex Biblically
• Day 16: Why Did God Make Sex? (7:40)
• Day 17: Sex Glorifies God By Reflecting the Spiritual Roles of a Husband and Wife (8:17)
• Day 18: What Is Sexual Sin According to the Bible? (9:07)
• Day 19: Why Masturbation Is Sin and How to Stop Doing It (9:42)
• Day 20: Never Let Your Guard Down (5:24)
• Section 5: How to Use Your Sex Drive Properly in Singleness
• Day 21: What’s the Purpose of Your Sex Drive During Singleness? (9:08)
• Day 22: Harnessing Your Passions Towards Pursuing God’s Plan (9:42)
• Day 23: Sexual Attraction Can Help Guide You to The One (7:43)
• Day 24: Starving Your Sexual Desires Now Leads to Greater Satisfaction Later (5:54)
• Day 25: Whether in Singleness or Marriage, Use Your Sex Drive to Bring Glory to God (7:02)
• Section 6: Preparing Your Sexuality for the Future
• Day 26: Understanding a Man’s Desires for Sex (11:18)
• Day 27: Understanding a Woman’s Desire for Sex (8:24)
• Day 28: How to Talk About Past Sexual Sins When You Get Into a Serious Relationship Headed Towards Marriage (10:52)
• Day 29: Prepare Now to Keep the Marriage Bed Holy (5:32)
• Day 30: Commit Your Way to the Lord, and He Will Make Your Path Straight (3:57)

Books by Mark Ballenger (in PDF format)

• The One: How to Know and Trust God's Sovereign Plan for Your Future Marriage
• The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness
• Intertwined: Our Good Is Tied to God's Glory
• Redeemed Like David: How to Overcome Sexual Temptation (A Study on Psalm 51)
• Never Quit: 5 Powerful Prayer Lessons from Luke 18:1-8
• Basic Transformation: A Bible Study on the Basics of Christianity and Transformation

Access to the AGW University Private Facebook Group:

• You don't have to join this group. All the content from this program is hosted on this website, not on Facebook.
• The AGW University Private Facebook Group is simply a bonus for those students who want to interact with each other.
• There are currently over 1,000 men and women in this group who have gone through my courses. (Note: Over 2,000 people have enrolled in AGW University, but not all of them want to use the Facebook group. It's completely optional.)
  

I have had over 2,000 students go through my biblical relationship courses and the feedback has been tremendous.

Here’s a small sample of what past students have said about their experiences with the courses on AGW University:

Mark’s biblical videos have been viewed over 120 million times on YouTube. He has over 750,000 subscribers. 

He has authored ten books, which have reached numerous #1 Amazon rankings.

Mark’s content has been featured by Focus on the Family (Boundless.org), Desiring God (DesiringGod.org), Relevant Magazine (RelevantMagazine.com), The Christian Post (ChristianPost.com), David C. Cook (DavidCCook.org), and many others.

Mark has a master’s degree in pastoral counseling from Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary.

He’s been married to Bethany since 2008. They have two children and live in Cleveland, Ohio.

Mark's Coaching Philosophy

I don’t offer counseling; rather, I offer “coaching.”

Why? Because my goal is to help people not need me. I don’t want you to see me as your life-long therapist. Rather, I want to be someone who comes into your life for an important season so that you can then move forward with confidence without me.

While I’m not offering traditional counseling here, when I earned my master's degree in pastoral counseling, I was trained in seminary in a theory of counseling called “solution-focused brief therapy.” This proven method of helping people is focused on getting them unstuck rather than psychoanalyzing everything at length.

While defining problems and giving labels to those issues can be useful at times, I believe it is important to spend the majority of our resources on the solutions. I focus on helping people get moving forward and overcoming whatever is blocking them the most from achieving their goals. This then frees them to gain positive momentum in other areas of their life, like an ever-increasing snowball effect.

My goal is to not become a crutch for you. Rather, I want to be a launching pad for you. I don’t ever just want to tell you the solution to one problem at a time for the rest of your life. Rather, I want to teach you how to proceed forward and gain the tools to deal with any issue that may arise in the future.

Most importantly, I believe in the sufficiency of the Scriptures applied through the power of the Holy Spirit. Therefore, I always base my coaching and advice on biblical principles. 

2 Timothy 3:16-17, "All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work."